Respect is “recognizing that how you interact with another person will affect your relationship with that person, and then choosing to take actions that will build relationships, rather than injure them. It helps us decide how to choose to act toward others.” Peter Post, Essential Manners for Men
Indicators of Respect: Are you respectful? Are you being respected?
- Protecting the safety of others
- Showing concern for another’s feelings or well-being
- Being open-minded to the ideas and beliefs of others
- Showing trust
- Allowing for difference of opinions, disagreements, and necessary discomfort
Kinds of Respect
- Respect for Yourself: Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Express your ideas and opinions. Stand up for your rights. Without this basic form on respect, you are not able to respect anyone or anything else.
- Respect for Others: Others deserve the same consideration you do, so always think of the other person.
- Respect for Nature: We all share the same planet. Think of nature as a communal property.
Handling the Disrespectful
- When someone is acting disrespectful, figure out the other person’s intention. Do they mean to be bothering/offending you, or are they just being careless?
- Try to see things from the other person’s perspective.
- Try to ignore the person. It is better for your sanity and it deprives the offender of the attention and recognition he/she is seeking.
- If ignoring is not possible, think of ways ti avoid the person or situation.
- Direct confrontation: if it comes to that, stay calm and try not to become emotional. State what is bothering you and act like you know it was done unintentionally.
- If you feel that your safety is truly in jeopardy in any form, then report the situation to your employer, landlord, or the police. Make sure you follow a chain of authority from lowest to highest. Do not escalate the situation without trying every lower remedy.